tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3069156612727408350.post501285501362338724..comments2011-02-21T17:14:34.859-08:00Comments on Val's Rants: Blue Eyes updateValhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10719548520307769456noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3069156612727408350.post-8975908876657606002011-01-24T08:28:45.207-08:002011-01-24T08:28:45.207-08:00I know exactly what you are saying Anon. My mom th...I know exactly what you are saying Anon. My mom thought she could change my dad and it's lead to a bitter and miserable marriage. I love my mom, my dad I can take or leave, but I don't want that for me. I don't want bitterness and resentment to take over my life. I keep going back and forth over this guy and it isn't fair to me or to him even. I don't think I'll ever see him in person because we mutually decided to meet up. If we ever do see each other in the future it might be at some large function that we both are attending. Or in his case, he says he'll be there burt he probably decides to do something else at the last minute. *Sigh* Some men really do suck!Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10719548520307769456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3069156612727408350.post-46506484489045912562011-01-24T06:36:31.465-08:002011-01-24T06:36:31.465-08:00Val as to your question whether you are crazy to t...Val as to your question whether you are crazy to talk to him or not. I think yes and no. Yes because I feel you are hurting yourself by giving him power over you and making you feel worthless. It's not your fault he is screwed up, but you end up blaming yourself and doubting who you are. While trying to decode what he means by the texts he writes.<br />The no part is well, as females we hang in there thinking that we can either influence or change them. It is the female instinct in us to 'fix things'. And when we fail at it we blame our selves and our abilities. I personally see him as someone who isn't fixable by you or anyone else. So the question then is do you want to spend your time always being frustrated by his beliefs and actions or write it off to an experience and move on to something else? When will enough be enough for you? How many chances do you give him?<br />I've read all your posts and it seems imho that you have a lot on your plate, is this worth it?<br />My advice if and when he texts again, and I believe he will. Chalk it up to one of those friends that are like in and out of your life as soon as the text comes, you know the ones who say hi and bye in one word and you have no other contact with them. Get emotionally detached from him and let what he says mean nothing. Think of him more like a gay friend..LOL and have fun just hearing from him now and then rather than becoming a basket case every time you get a text from him. I would move on but I'm not you, you are the only one who would know if you are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com